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Articles on Widow Recovery |
| [Another]
Reason for Tears |
content by Linda Foldvik
published: October 1, 2010
I am just now getting a cold. I am starting to feel pretty bad! About an hour
ago, I had decided to not write this article this. Obviously, I changed my
mind.
I like writing these articles. I find them therapeutic for me. And I sincerely
hope that they are of some help and/or comfort to other widows.
I think it is important to know and fully understand that whatever you are
feeling is perfectly ‘normal’ and natural. And, that you will be all
right. You will find a new “normal’; a new ‘happiness.’
And, lots of things have changed forever!!
While that is true, remember fully that there are some things that will stay
the same. This truth was driven home to me, again, last night (Sunday). I am
getting a pretty bad summer cold. I woke up this morning and I sound terrible;
a cold for sure. I had been feeling out of sorts on Saturday and Sunday. Tears
came swiftly and for no apparent reason. I thought, “Oh, here we go again!
Tears for no reason. Gosh, I hate this.”
I don’t know about you, obviously. But, I do know that if I know the
reason for tears or feeling out of sorts, that knowledge makes me feel somewhat
better. What I mean is, I don’t feel so out of control. I know that the
tears will go away and I ‘just’ need to go with the flow. Well, now
that I know that I am crying because I’m sick, I feel better about the
tears, at least.
Since I was a child, I get teary when I start to get sick. I had been married
to Orin just over 7 years when he died. While he was alive, especially after
his stroke in March, 2004, I did not sick very often at all. When I did get
sick, Orin took very good care of me and I did not cry. So, I had forgotten
that I cry when I get sick.
I know that I am sort of rambling. As I re-read my article, I am going to let
the rambling stay. In my experience as a widow for over 3 years, rambling is
what we widows do. I sure do, any way. Believe it or not, in a zen way,
rambling brings clarity to my thoughts and feelings. Let you’re my mind
wander as it needs to, and ramble on all you need.
I welcome you to share your thoughts; through this column and/or directly to
me, at widowlinda@gmail.com |
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