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Articles on Widow Recovery |
| Don't
Have This Regret: Say "I Love You" |
content by Linda Foldvik
published: September 30, 2010
We've all done it at least once in our lives: taken someone's presence for
granted. As a child, we each tend to take our parents for granted at least some
of the time. As adults, we try to not take others for granted. But, some times,
life gets in the way of our best intentions.
During the years that my husband, Orin, and I were married, I can honestly say
that we did not take each other for granted. We said "I love you" to
each other every day, and meant it. Our phone conversations always started with
"I love you."
We never ended the day on a bad note. This was especially true after he had the
mild stroke in March, 2004. We each instinctively knew that Orin would not be
here on earth with me for the rest of my life. We each knew that the 'big one'
was just a matter of years away. The statistics are that once a person has a
stroke or heart attack, regardless of how mild it is, he/she will probably have
another one that will kill or debilitate him within 10 years of the first
stroke.
I never wanted to have the regret that our last words to one another were words
of anger. We said "I love you" before we went to sleep. And other
times during the day, too.
I am so, so glad that I listened to my intuition. I know, absolutely, with zero
doubt that Orin really loved me, and he knows that I love him. How sad that not
everyone can say that. I have met several widows and widowers who have each
said he/she wished she had said "I love you" more to her husband.
If you are like one of these widows, know that you can say "I love
you" to your husband now, every day. On some plane, on some level, I
believe he can hear you. You can show your love every day, too. Talk to him.
Keep him in your life in all the ways that are right for you. You have to
believe that he knew/knows you love him by your words and deeds throughout your
life together and now as his widow.
Don't beat yourself up about the past. What's done is done. Try not to make the
same mistake again. Say "I love you" to the people you do love every
time you see them or talk to them.
I welcome you to share your thoughts; through this column and/or directly to
me, at widowlinda@gmail.com |
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